Creating Your Best Self In Times Of Adversity

I don’t know about you but this has been a very challenging year for me on many levels.  My recent time away gave me the opportunity to recognise the many Personal Leadership practices – that I call rituals – that I have embraced that I know have helped me to continue to move forward with a significant dose of optimism and to also continue to work towards one of my great passions, creating my best self

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Sure there have been times when it’s all felt too hard and I wanted to give up (on relationships, business, commitments, all sorts of random stuff to be honest!) but then I took stock of what I really felt, wanted, trusted and believed in and put that little foot of mine that wanted to turn and run away forward in front of the other one and kept the momentum moving in what some would say is the ‘right direction’.  I know this movement had a sense of being a forward direction

Only time will tell if it was right or not

What I do know for certain though is that I’ve had some amazing opportunities come my way during this time (like speaking at the Every Woman Business Events You As A Leader Seminar in June – image courtesy New Work Photography) and each and every one has been a reminder that taking one step at a time whichever way you move is better than staying still and waiting for life to come to you

What did I do to keep moving forward?  Today I share 3 of my favourite mindset attributes that feed into my Personal Leadership Rituals

1. Self- Reflection

When things are challenging do you look outwards and wonder what’s happening to everyone else or do you look within to see if there is something in yourself you can reflect on with the intention of doing things differently? Reflection provides a powerful opportunity for change and when something’s not working out like you want or need it to then it’s time to make some changes.  I’m sure you’ve heard this before – the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results.  So how do you prevent yourself from feeling like you are going mad?  Self-reflect.  Look in the mirror and be honest about what you see and then take action to make things different

2. Self- Flexibility

It’s so common to want to take control when life deals you less than fantastic experiences.  In fact in my experience I’ve noticed that the bigger the issue or challenge the more likely that we want to take control.  I know this all too well as it’s been one of my default behaviours for a long time.  Guess what?  Rigidity and control won’t really get you very far.  Instead work towards adopting self-flexibiity.  I see this as filled with resilience and big picture perspective.  When you can be flexible you are more readily able to go with the flow and respond optimistically to experiences, including thoughts and feelings, that might otherwise knock you off course

3.  Self-Trust

Ok this is one I know I’ve gone on about a lot.  In fact self-trust features as a common opportunity for learning in many of the archetypes that feature as unique leadership styles in my Personal Leadership model.  Self-trust is one of the key corner stones when it comes to creating your best self.  How can you expect to be the best version of you if you don’t trust who you are and what you are doing.  A good way to get acquainted with what it means to trust yourself is to define the term trust.  For me it’s closely linked to self belief, belief and trust go hand in hand.  It also means listening to and following my intuition and taking full responsibility for my part in my experiences

I’d love to know what you rely on or turn to when things are challenging in your world.  Please share your comments below

Until next time, I wish you succulent, effortless success


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