Back when I started my business I was so well “trained” to be a good girl. I’d spent my professional life being a good person and a good woman. Doing the right things and falling in line with what was expected behaviour. It didn’t feel wrong to do this because, truth be known, I’ve been this way all of my life.
When I was very little I clearly remember being told it was fabulous that I was so well behaved. I was told that it was so great that I was good. I was told that being these things and applying myself to school was the right path.
Finding my voice wasn’t something I chose not to do.
I could certainly be vocal when I wanted to.
At the same time to “find your voice” wasn’t something high on my agenda and yet I know deep inside there was something rumbling away that would find a way to get heard.
You see, the thing is there has always been a ferocious, energetic, passionate, excitable part of me who cheekily loves to push boundaries (just a little bit) to see what happens. I wouldn’t go as far as to say I love to break things but I do like to push them (and myself) to the limit.
It is a part of me who wants to face the world feeling free and so alive it’s hard to describe.
Is that such a bad thing?
I don’t think so.
In fact as a business woman it’s been this part of me that’s finally coming alive.
I wouldn’t say it’s been let completely free but it’s certainly a part of me that has been given a voice and OMG it feels AMAZING and FREE!
Find Your Voice :: Because We All Want To Hear What You Have To Say
I’m not really sure what I wanted to say when I sat down to write today. I’m quite instinctive and intuitive when I write and sometimes stuff just comes out. It’s like the message has a mind of it’s own, the message, the story, the voice getting louder as I tap away at my laptop, words somehow forming without me really thinking about them.
I do know that what speaks loudly to me and demands to be shared is always connected to recent experiences.
Earlier this week I spoke with the gorgeous Dominique Oyston, a woman on a mission to help women find and confidently share their voice. (really excited that she’s a contributor in next months issue of Totally Thriving BTW!).
We shared a collective passion for women speaking more AND being heard because we have connected with qualities in our voices that are often lost or undiscovered. I walked away from my time with Dominique thinking a lot about how I use my voice and how I’m being called to use it more.
It’s made me consider how so often we fall into a pattern that’s all tied in with what we think is ok for us, or what we believe others want and expect from us as women.
In all the years I’ve been coaching, mentoring, teaching, counselling, networking, brainstorming, musing, creating and actively working with women I can guarantee you every single one of them had something really important to say.
Sadly not that many of these gorgeous souls had yet found a way to express herself.
Is this you too?
I know it’s been me.
It is time to let our voices free.
Find your voice. I’m finding mine and together we can share our truths, the deep musings that come from a place somewhere within, somewhere we forget to connect with.
Are you with me?
Let’s get loud together.
Until next time, wishing you a whole load of totally thriving
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