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Limits: Real or Imagined?

Ultimate Blog Challenge Post 10

Yesterday I asked you to help me to answer a question I am fascinated in at the moment (well to be honest it’s fascinated me for some time) and that was to define what it means to live a limitless life.  I look forward to sharing all the responses with you in the near future but in the meantime I got to thinking about the opposite of being and experiencing limitless.  That is a life filled with or bound by limits; a life in the box perhaps?

In particular I began thinking about whether the limits that we can experience are real or imagined.  These thoughts came after a great conversation I recorded with my friend Jennifer Lee, founder of Artizen Coaching and award winning author or The Right-Brain Business Plan

During our chat which will air in the next couple of weeks on Creative Possibility – The Limitless Life on Web Talk Radio, Jenn and I talked about many things that would be limits as examples of the things that get in the way of us living an empowered, confident, more joyous and abundant life

Where do these limits we experience come from?  Are they real or imagined?

How often have you got yourself in such a mess that you just can’t seem to find a way out.  What sort of limit does this place on you and what impact does that have?  Most importantly how does it make you feel?

When it comes to busting through limits one of the first things I like to do is challenge whatever it is that I see as a limit.  I take the approach that it’s not real until proven and most of the time I end up deciding that what I got myself so bound up by isn’t really that real or that big of a deal after all.  I’ve become entangled in the emotion and perception or belief that it’s real and when that happens it’s time to challenge it big-time!

Here’s a quick exercise to help you to see things from a different perspective

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Dare To Compare? Do And You’ll Lose

Ultimate Blog Challenge Post 4

In yesterday’s article I shared part 2 of my series on Identity Confusion (read it here) and in that I highlighted 3 key actions or activities that you’re likely doing right now that are destined to send you straight into a state of identity confusion, overwhelm, limitations and anything else you can think of that distracts you, keeps you tired, challenged and struggling to stay motivated

The first of these actions was comparison.  Today I’m going to share with you a little more about the impact of comparison and tomorrow our focus will be on what to do to counter act it with one of my effortless success creating actions

So comparison – what’s it all about?  in simple terms it’s comparing yourself to someone else.  Perhaps it’s someone you admire or look up to.  Perhaps it’s a personal friend, mentor or someone you met through your business.  It may even be someone you’ve never met but whom you admire anyway.  Often when we compare it’s to someone or something that we have something in common.  Not always though.  That’s quite irrelevant in my experience.  What’s relevant is the self talk and action we go into when we compare

Think for a moment about what happens in your inner and outer world when you compare yourself to someone else…..

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Who Are You? Overcoming Identity Confusion Part 1

Who are you?  Is this a question that sends you into a flat spin, leaves you with a blank expression or fills your head with an overwhelming number of possibilities?

Knowing who you are is one of the most interesting journey’s you can take in life.  It has the potential to be filled with discovery and wonder, curiosity and amazement, purpose and potential and yet as a question “Who are you?” or more to the point “Who am I?” is referred to regularly as the one question that leaves a large majority of people feeling confused and challenged on a daily basis

Recently I’ve been working with a new set of clients and while their challenges have been varied, the primary root cause underlying their frustrations and limitations has been confusion.  Specifically self confusion which I see as potential identity crisis.  This topic has come up so often that I wanted to share with you a little about identity, identity confusion and how to overcome it over the course of December

First up let’s take a look at the first question to ask ourselves.  “What is identity?”

Identity is the underlying element of who we are.  It’s how we define ourselves – our sense of self.  It is also how others define us – and may, particularly in relation to business be described using words such as brand or branding, personal brand or reputation

It is also the sum of all of these things – who we are, our sense of self and how others define us

It is all of the different roles we play – partner, parent, business owner, friend, sibling, speaker, creator, marketing manager, author, student, and employer and so on

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