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Embracing The Real You: 3 Questions To Help You Discover And Speak With Your Own Voice

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In today’s post I promised to share the first of 3 Counter-Actions To Take To Show Up As The Real You a genuine effortless success creating strategy that’ll support you to address any challenges that have arisen from your personal identity confusion, a theme we’re expanding on currently

So what to do to combat comparison, one of the biggest contributors to identity confusion and block to you being and sharing the real you?

Use Your VoiceSpeak with your own voice!

Now some may tell you this should be child’s play.  In my experience speaking with your own voice can be a real challenge.  That’s compounded by the degree of comparison you’re wrapped up or trapped in.  Here’s 3 steps to help you discover and speak with your own voice

1. Ask yourself “What will it take for me to stop comparing myself to others?”

This is an extension of what I shared yesterday and I do have a tendency to bang on about this topic as it’s something I’m passionate about.  Comparison is something you have to shed if you’re to discover and speak from your own voice.  This question may seem simple but it’s very powerful so ask away, allow yourself the space and some quiet time to hear the answer and then take action and follow what you hear

2. Ask yourself “When I share with others (with my spoken or written voice) what am I most passionate about, what makes my heart sing?”

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Dare To Compare? Do And You’ll Lose

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In yesterday’s article I shared part 2 of my series on Identity Confusion (read it here) and in that I highlighted 3 key actions or activities that you’re likely doing right now that are destined to send you straight into a state of identity confusion, overwhelm, limitations and anything else you can think of that distracts you, keeps you tired, challenged and struggling to stay motivated

The first of these actions was comparison.  Today I’m going to share with you a little more about the impact of comparison and tomorrow our focus will be on what to do to counter act it with one of my effortless success creating actions

So comparison – what’s it all about?  in simple terms it’s comparing yourself to someone else.  Perhaps it’s someone you admire or look up to.  Perhaps it’s a personal friend, mentor or someone you met through your business.  It may even be someone you’ve never met but whom you admire anyway.  Often when we compare it’s to someone or something that we have something in common.  Not always though.  That’s quite irrelevant in my experience.  What’s relevant is the self talk and action we go into when we compare

Think for a moment about what happens in your inner and outer world when you compare yourself to someone else…..

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The Real You: Overcoming Identity Confusion Part 2

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Last month I shared some key insights into the state of identity confusion.  This included providing a bit of psychological background into the origins of this term as well as some benefits to getting clear on who you are.  Knowing your true self is about having a clear identity (you can read part 1 here)

I promised I’d be back with a second installment in this series as it’s something that I see as a big challenge for many people.   So here it is, part 2 of the Overcoming Identity Confusion series, The Real You

In this post I agreed to share with you key insights into how to create a powerful identity and I plan to do that by sharing 3 things that you are probably doing right now that are potentially leading to increased confusion, growing overwhelm, loss of confidence and a sense of not only “who am I” but “what on earth am I doing?”

3 Actions Destined To Keep You Hiding And Confused

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Who Are You? Overcoming Identity Confusion Part 1

Who are you?  Is this a question that sends you into a flat spin, leaves you with a blank expression or fills your head with an overwhelming number of possibilities?

Knowing who you are is one of the most interesting journey’s you can take in life.  It has the potential to be filled with discovery and wonder, curiosity and amazement, purpose and potential and yet as a question “Who are you?” or more to the point “Who am I?” is referred to regularly as the one question that leaves a large majority of people feeling confused and challenged on a daily basis

Recently I’ve been working with a new set of clients and while their challenges have been varied, the primary root cause underlying their frustrations and limitations has been confusion.  Specifically self confusion which I see as potential identity crisis.  This topic has come up so often that I wanted to share with you a little about identity, identity confusion and how to overcome it over the course of December

First up let’s take a look at the first question to ask ourselves.  “What is identity?”

Identity is the underlying element of who we are.  It’s how we define ourselves – our sense of self.  It is also how others define us – and may, particularly in relation to business be described using words such as brand or branding, personal brand or reputation

It is also the sum of all of these things – who we are, our sense of self and how others define us

It is all of the different roles we play – partner, parent, business owner, friend, sibling, speaker, creator, marketing manager, author, student, and employer and so on

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